The Near-Fatal Attraction of Love Bombing

The recipient, and even the doer, can be damaged by this unhealthy, abusive, and destructive attempt at connection.

(Photo by engin akyurt on Unsplash)

By Dr T J Jordan

People love bomb for two main reasons:

1. They experience overwhelmingly intense emotions they don’t or can’t manage responsibly, often a sign of poor mental health.

and

2. They can.

Sometimes they also are lonely, and believe that they finally have hit the relationship jackpot with a potential new partner.

Love bombing is a trap that can be set for and by all genders. Getting out of such a connection is traumatic.

Finally we are beginning to share experiences of this recently recognized form of abuse. This kind of connection is confusing because love bombers often believe they have only good intentions — and those being bombed often are unprepared for these behaviors to be signals of emotional danger.

It is possible to fall in love with a new partner at the first contact. Science informs us that an initial connection can happen in minutes and can go beyond infatuation into an amazing lifetime relationship.