The Great Intimacy Challenge: Alternative Models of Loving
What would you do to keep the flames of your passion from fading?
By Dr T J Jordan
There are times when we need to push the edges of our intimacy. But knowing when to push — and how— is difficult and scary. These edges are both emotional and physical — and they are sexual.
The honeymoon phase of our love can last forever, but we practice the false belief that passion fades. We accept boredom because it masquerades as safety. And we wallow in stale versions of comfort too long — often long enough for lethal resentments to arise.
There are risks that build closeness — and there are others that destroy. When we’re considering alternatives, this above all is crucial: Take the position that you are together in your coupledom, looking outward at shared possibilities — don’t wait until you become fractured adversaries who are tired of trying to love each other.
