Monogamy — the Meaning, the Madness, and the Monotony
Monogamy can be the biggest issue for those of us who continue mating in captivity…
By Dr T J Jordan
In a world where hookup sex and casual encounters have become our fast-food diet of lovelessness, we don’t know what to hold precious or how to protect it. We’re trying to figure out what defines the special, committed love between couples. But we’re struggling, we’re making mistakes, and we’re getting hurt.
More than anything else, monogamy is prized for the emotional safety it provides. For many who love, a partner who steps out of monogamy into infidelity is signaling immanent loss and abandonment. For many couples, this is the ultimate dealbreaker.
In our careless and often heartless world, we need to co-create safety in our loving. We need to know that there is a place where only we two will tread.
But what do we mean by monogamy? The madness sets in when we haven’t defined our reasonable boundaries — or we have refused to face our irrational expectations.
