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5 min readMar 1, 2022

Consensual non-consent arose as a potential solution to living in real life sexual fantasies that challenge our ideas about boundaries.

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By Dr T J Jordan

To live in real life the kinds of sexual fantasies that push the envelope of acceptable, the idea of consensual non-consent (CNC) has emerged. When some couples share edgy sexual fantasies, their intimacy grows and their sharing promotes trust. But some fantasies challenge what we believe is acceptable even in deeply intimate relationships.

Some people believe that our sexual fantasies are best left in our dreams. Others, however, find that sharing fantasies and even bringing them to life can enhance intimate love.

Consensual non-consent addresses the need some people experience to engage in a complete power exchange in which one partner puts themselves fully into the hands of the other. While some people find this idea frightening, others experience the power exchange as an intense erotic rush.

Sometimes the issue of how respect can exist during fantasies becomes confusing, especially for men who carry shame about submission as well as aggression.

Fantasies of being sexually dominated are common among men (53.3%) as well as women (64.6%). These numbers are underestimates, since…

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Dr T J Jordan
Dr T J Jordan

Written by Dr T J Jordan

Passionate about sexualities, masculinities, relationships, intimacy, mental health, CPTSD , animals, growth, psychology, and exotic locations.

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