Let’s Talk About the Little “t’s”

Dr T J Jordan
4 min readJul 2, 2023

Because little traumas can add up to big Trauma — and the little t’s are common in adult relationships

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By Dr T J Jordan

We have been late to the party when it comes to understanding trauma.

We have known about the psychological effects of devastating events at least since Herodotus recorded them during the battle of Marathon, in 440 bc. At this battle, a case of psychogenic blindness was observed and recorded. But we identified PTSD as a response to trauma only in 1980, after we had coined terms like “shell shock” and “war neurosis” to explain traumatic responses to the overwhelming effects of warfare.

Finally we have begun to understand that our “casualties” often are more psychological than physical — and that much of our accumulated trauma is caused by the small t’s.

Yet, we still struggle with acknowledging the fact that repeated small traumas — like the chronic emotional abuse that happens in relationships — can destroy love and kill self worth.

We are beginning to understand that small t traumas have a devastating and insidious power of their…

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Dr T J Jordan

Passionate about sexualities, masculinities, relationships, intimacy, mental health, CPTSD , animals, growth, psychology, and exotic locations.