If You Can’t Talk About Sex, Try a Check-Off Menu
We don’t really need an in-depth conversation every time we try to express our sexual desires to our partners.
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By Dr T J Jordan
What we need in our love lives is emotional intimacy coupled with magnificent sexuality. For this exercise, we will assume that a healthy emotional connection is already underway.
This exercise is about creating great sex between partners who already love and understand each other but perhaps run into some difficulty when the question of sex acts arises. It’s not about learning how to communicate deeply. We lose ourselves in abstractions and get buried in questions of “why” when we struggle over communication.
Great sex is an important component of great relationships, so releasing the sex conversation from the entanglements of verbal sparring can help us build stronger emotional links through action.
We tend to couch our needs for specific kinds of pleasures in our emotional conversations about love and connection, and sometimes in tales of our good and not-so-good histories. Is this the optimal way to express ourselves about the sex we want with our partners right now?
Probably not.
