Grudges, Vengeance, Resentments
These compelling feelings are not just for the narcissists among us…
By Dr T J Jordan
We savor our grudges. We collect resentments. We wallow in our urges for vengeance. And the less confident we feel about ourselves, the more we practice these rituals.
Sometimes we go to such extremes of holding on to our partner’s transgressions that we keep track of them in writing. We don’t want to forget the bad that our partners have done. We reserve a special place in our memories for our “wound list.” Rarely do we recollect the happy moments as sharply or with such devastating gusto as we reserve for those that stung.
Why do we persist in treasuring occasions of anger? What prohibits us from letting go? And what can we do to prevent the painful events of the past from poisoning the present?
Seduction by Power
It’s a human thing to get off on power. It makes us feel self righteous and superior. It feeds a false elitism. And it gives us a dopamine hit.
We repeatedly revisit the wrongs that our partners have done because those…
