Exploring the Benefits of Sexcations

We go on vacations to explore new things. Why not to explore each other?

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By Dr T J Jordan

Where do our relationships fit into our travel plans? They don’t fit well or often, if commonly reported experiences are to be believed.

One of the singular mistakes of modern life is the insistence on expensive honeymoons to exotic locations, a mistake secondary only to expensive, stressful weddings.

Pre-pandemic couples might have spent two miserable weeks on a European vacation for which they paid big bucks to suffer the abuse of many countries in too short a time for even one. For couples who make this mistake on their honeymoons, the time spent arguing and being angry typically outweighs the time spent making love.

How do we reconcile the need for great sex with the need to experience someplace new?

First, we might recognize that there are different kinds of vacations. Some travel broadens us by exposing us to new and different cultures. This can be wonderful, but it tends not to be relaxing or particularly erotic.

Second, we can begin to value the experience of relaxing while focusing on our sex lives instead of the sights. Going to a new place to be together removes us…