Coupledom: The Cult of Two
Decoding the power and privilege of intimate love and finding deep rapport
By Dr T J Jordan
Each instance of intimacy is unique. We create our own kingdoms, languages, and cultures when we fall in love. We have secret ways of touching and having sex. We create a haven from the world and from the past in the “bubble” we call our relationship.
We never really duplicate ourselves in our intimacies. Instead, we co-create a landscape that can truly be known only by we two, in its glory as well as its gruesomeness.
Membership in the cult is restricted to the couple — and telling relationship secrets outside of school means that we’ve gone off reservation. We have broken the fellowship — and the cost is usually very high.
The Power and The Privilege
Once we form a couple, we are committed to a new intimacy that is a great privilege — and also a great responsibility. We know each other in ways that nobody else ever has. And we have unprecedented power to hurt each other. We become the bearers of…
