Jan 19Member-onlyWhy I Love 🥰 EmojisWhatever helps us share our emotions is fine with me. By Dr T J Jordan We are reminded time and again that some of us have difficulty expressing our emotions, especially if we are male. Emotions are sometimes equated with weakness, and nearly always with vulnerability. We seem to have…Technology3 min readTechnology3 min read
Jan 18Member-onlyDogs and Self EsteemMy mother once told me that if she had been more beautiful, she would have been a great doctor. (Photo of the puppy named Christmas by the author) By Dr T J Jordan Have you considered that you let your self esteem place a ceiling on what you try to…Pets4 min readPets4 min read
Jan 16Member-onlyLosing ImmortalityCoping with the challenge of modern aging in an era of high tech medicine By Dr T J Jordan Modern medicine and attention to public health have staved off the moment of our death from illnesses and organ failures. Instead of a sudden drop off the edge of a cliff…Health5 min readHealth5 min read
Jan 15Member-onlyChoose JoyWhat is this feeling and how do we find it? By Dr T J Jordan Joy transcends. Joy facilitates compassion and blurs our boundaries. It creates a sense of oneness with the universe. Happiness has a way of depending upon external circumstances. But joy doesn't wait for perfection. It is…Inspiration4 min readInspiration4 min read
Jan 12Member-onlyUse Eye Contact for Mental TouchingDevelop this essential skill to reap the benefits of enhanced communication. By Dr T J Jordan Like physical touching, eye contact triggers the release of oxytocin, also known as the cuddle hormone. Making eye contact is a fundamental rule of engagement that speaks volumes about dominance/submission, attraction, empathy, honesty, passion…Communication5 min readCommunication5 min read
Jan 10Member-onlyHow Micro Abandonments Destroy Intimacy and Create TraumaThreats of abandonment and unreasonable ultimatums can inflict as much damage as full-on leaving. By Dr T J Jordan Once upon a time in our lives, we all were completely helpless. Abandonment was tantamount to death. We carry this legacy with us, especially if we experienced disturbances in our very…Relationships4 min readRelationships4 min read
Jan 10Member-onlyEscaping from the What-If TrapMuch of our anxiety is caused by ruminating about negative possibilities. By Dr T J Jordan It has been said that we spend 95% of our time worrying about events that are less than 5% likely to happen. This worrying often takes the form of what-if thinking. What-if thinking drags…Emotions4 min readEmotions4 min read
Jan 10Member-onlyEveryday Anger – How “Anger Orgasms” Harm Us and How We Can Change CourseThe physiology of anger often pushes us toward destructive action, but we can alter our course in favor of calmness and emotional safety. By Dr T J Jordan Anger is a difficult and complicated emotion. And more than other emotions, anger pressures us relentlessly for expression. Anger shuts down a…Relationships6 min readRelationships6 min read
Jan 7Member-onlyDo We Really Forgive and Forget?We actually do some of each, but not as easily or as often as the slogan would suggest, especially in our intimate relationships. By Dr T J Jordan Forgetting is a cognitive act. Forgiving is emotional. There is a world of difference between the two. The adage "forgive and forget"…Relationships4 min readRelationships4 min read
Jan 7Member-onlyAvoid the Smalltalk and Skip the Superficial ConversationsAsk free-ranging questions about our passions instead of asking what we ate for lunch. By Dr T J Jordan Most of us actually enjoy deep conversations. With deep conversations we can open pathways to growth and provide an amazing antidote to boredom in our long-term relationships. …Relationships4 min readRelationships4 min read