We are doing a poor job of understanding penis behavior. By Dr T J Jordan Just as an erection is not consent for sex, a soft penis does not mean a lack of desire. When we take our time making leisurely love, we engage in many intimacy-creating experiences that are…

Our bodies are not usually barriers to magnificent sex — but our ideas about our bodies can kill our sexuality. By Dr T J Jordan How we think about our bodies impacts our sexual confidence as well as our sexual enjoyment. How we feel about our bodies impacts our sex-life…

Without great sex lives, we fall out of love and out of our relationships. By Dr T J Jordan A great sex life is the work of a lifetime. A great sex life is a shared erotic adventure and an ongoing pilgrimage into our own interiors. It is our ultimate co-creation of a profoundly intimate haven for erotic exploration. …

If there is anything that makes many women burn with desire for their male partners, it's being privileged to see the raw, impassioned vulnerability of the untethered male heart. By Dr T J Jordan By revealing our authentic selves, we make ourselves deliciously available to our lovers in the most…

We can learn to capture what inspires us in order to create content that lights fires, because what touches and inspires us is likely also to touch and inspire others. By Dr T J Jordan “She would come a few moments late of course — fresh perhaps from some assignation…

The natural body odors of our partners can turn us on — or off. By Dr T J Jordan There is something called odor compatibility. And there is body odor attraction. Diane Ackerman* calls smells “the suburbs of the heart.” Whether we are attracted to body smells that are somewhat…

Love, trust, and respect are essential for fulfilling relationships, but how do we demonstrate these? By Dr T J Jordan Intimacy is more than being loyal to an interpersonal commitment. We can have relationships that aren't truly intimate. We can have marriages, "situationships," and other kinds of affiliations without having…

Sometimes it’s an absence of love, and sometimes it’s something else. By Dr T J Jordan Throughout our lifetimes, we will experience periods of intense sexuality as well as periods of drought. But when we find that we don't desire sex for as long as six months or more, we…

Micro-needs and micro-expressions are the building blocks of intimate loving. Dr T J Jordan There is much more meaning in the flash of a smile, the touch of a hand, or the text of a simple heart emoji than we usually acknowledge. With these kinds of frequent “small” gestures, we…