We don’t do a good enough job of editing what we say to our partners, but we can learn to use our words to empower intimacy instead of… — We don’t do a good enough job of editing what we say to our partners, but we can learn to use our words to empower intimacy instead of killing it. By Dr T J Jordan When we feel passionately, we don't attempt to weaken our statements of love and desire…

Like women, men sometimes weaponize sexuality. — Like women, men sometimes weaponize sexuality. By T J Jordan When men withhold sex from an intimate partner, they are inflicting a kind of psychological abuse, a passive-aggressive punishment by withdrawal of warmth. …

This form of vengeance actually is an expression of love that can remind us repeatedly of our pain. — This form of vengeance actually is an expression of love that can remind us repeatedly of our pain. By Dr T J Jordan We sometimes believe: “The best way to get over someone is to get under someone else.” But when we practice feeling empty — or angry — in…

She can calm a raging child, heal a damaged paw, and make many men wonder what they have been missing. — She can calm a raging child, heal a damaged paw, and make many men wonder what they have been missing. By Dr T J Jordan She leans over the table in a manner that makes the soft sway of her bra-less breasts visible against the silky front of her slightly…

Love her, fear her, hate her — she is the stuff of which your husband’s bedroom fantasies are made. — Love her, fear her, hate her — she is the stuff of which your husband’s bedroom fantasies are made. By Dr T J Jordan There are women who embody warmth and sexuality throughout their lifespans, regardless of age or role. Somehow they never got the memo about being repressed and…

Sex, kink, and glamour get you either loved or hated. — Sex, kink, and glamour get you either loved or hated. By Dr T J Jordan What makes men flame with desire, profess a hitherto unknown passion, crave intimate love, and swing for the nuptial altar? The answer is: those things that scream the opposite of a sexless marriage, the antidote…

We often use journaling to record facts of our lives, but there’s another important use that can help us relieve our pain in relationships… — We often use journaling to record facts of our lives, but there’s another important use that can help us relieve our pain in relationships and defuse our urge for emotional vengeance. By Dr T J Jordan Words can be powerful weapons as well as powerful instruments of healing. When we…

There’s sex and then there’s magnificent sex. — There’s sex and then there’s magnificent sex. By Dr T J Jordan Some sexual experiences and some orgasms seem to touch our souls. Regardless of gender, we cry, we glow, we let go of our worlds for a time. We experience bliss. Magnificent flow state sex might be the most…

We are preoccupied with the final step of broken sexual monogamy, but we ignore many behavior patterns that lead up to straying. — We are preoccupied with the final step of broken sexual monogamy, but we ignore many behavior patterns that lead up to straying. By Dr T J Jordan Many experts have speculated about why we stray (usually called cheating). Clearly, the causes are many, including lack of emotional and physical intimacy…