Seven suggestions for bringing sexuality back. By Dr T J Jordan Somewhere along the way, some of us stop attending to partnered sexuality. …

Sharing hard-earned wisdom from the vantage point of later life By Dr T J Jordan Loving ourselves is a difficult task. But we seem to approximate a kind of tenderness toward ourselves when we look back with empathy on who we were in our younger versions. As we do this…

Or do we need to learn how to do it? By Dr T J Jordan The answer is probably yes to both questions: we are born with the capacity to love, but we need to learn how to love well. When we think about how important our earliest caregivers are…

The past stays present after trauma until we boldly seek change. By Dr T J Jordan Trauma leaves footprints on our hearts that limit the intimacy and selfhood we reach for in later life. It makes us vulnerable in the extreme. Trauma envelopes us in shame and a sense of…

When we have our grounding tools ready, we can more easily self soothe to pivot away from anxiety, depression, and even dissociation. By Dr T J Jordan Assembling a toolkit that contains objects and techniques to ground ourselves can be an effective way to support our mental health. Grounding can…

We can use affirmations to help ourselves move forward — or to set ourselves up for failure. By Dr T J Jordan We use affirmations in attempts to enhance the quality of our lives. …

Some Lessons on Stability and Change By Dr T J Jordan Being a still point means regulating our emotions. As long as we regulate our own emotions, we aren’t helpless victims of the behaviors of others. …

Our identities might be less integrated than we think. By Dr T J Jordan Unless we’re struggling with multiple personality disorder, we probably have a relatively well-integrated sense of self. Or do we? We know that we code switch our language from situation to situation, as well as from person…

We can train ourselves to have insights from our nighttime dreaming. By Dr T J Jordan Dreams are more than the dumping ground of the unconscious. But dreams can’t be interpreted according to cookbook meanings. The source materials of our dreams can be found in our daily experiences, our personal…